Saturday, June 30, 2007
We have moved!!!
Come and visit!
Sunday, June 17, 2007
Think about it for a minute???
Written by Adrian Savage
1.Stop taking so much notice of how you feel. How you feel is how you feel. It’ll pass soon. What you’re thinking is what you’re thinking. It’ll go too. Tell yourself that whatever you feel, you feel; whatever you think, you think. Since you can’t stop yourself thinking, or prevent emotions from arising in your mind, it makes no sense to be proud or ashamed of either. You didn’t cause them. Only your actions are directly under your control. They’re the only proper cause of pleasure or shame.
2.Let go of worrying. It often makes things worse. The more you think about something bad, the more likely it is to happen. When you’re hair-trigger primed to notice the first sign of trouble, you’ll surely find something close enough to convince yourself it’s come.
3.Ease up on the internal life commentary. If you want to be happy, stop telling yourself you’re miserable. People are always telling themselves how they feel, what they’re thinking, what others feel about them, what this or that event really means. Most of it’s imagination. The rest is equal parts lies and misunderstandings. You have only the most limited understanding of what others feel about you. Usually they’re no better informed on the subject; and they care about it far less than you do. You have no way of knowing what this or that event really means. Whatever you tell yourself will be make-believe.
4.Take no notice of your inner critic. Judging yourself is pointless. Judging others is half-witted. Whatever you achieve, someone else will always do better. However bad you are, others are worse. Since you can tell neither what’s best nor what’s worst, how can you place yourself correctly between them? Judging others is foolish since you cannot know all the facts, cannot create a reliable or objective scale, have no means of knowing whether your criteria match anyone else’s, and cannot have more than a limited and extremely partial view of the other person. Who cares about your opinion anyway.
5.Give up on feeling guilty. Guilt changes nothing. It may make you feel you’re accepting responsibility, but it can’t produce anything new in your life. If you feel guilty about something you’ve done, either do something to put it right or accept you screwed up and try not to do so again. Then let it go. If you’re feeling guilty about what someone else did, see a psychiatrist. That’s insane.
6.Stop being concerned what the rest of the world says about you. Nasty people can’t make you mad. Nice people can’t make you happy. Events or people are simply events or people. They can’t make you anything. You have to do that for yourself. Whatever emotions arise in you as a result of external events, they’re powerless until you pick them up and decide to act on them. Besides, most people are far too busy thinking about themselves (and worry what you are are thinking and saying about them) to be concerned about you.
7.Stop keeping score. Numbers are just numbers. They don’t have mystical powers. Because something is expressed as a number, a ratio or any other numerical pattern doesn’t mean it’s true. Plenty of lovingly calculated business indicators are irrelevant, gibberish, nonsensical, or just plain wrong. If you don’t understand it, or it’s telling you something bizarre, ignore it. There’s nothing scientific about relying on false data. Nor anything useful about charting your life by numbers that were silly in the first place.
8.Don’t be concerned that your life and career aren’t working out the way you planned. The closer you stick to any plan, the quicker you’ll go wrong. The world changes constantly. However carefully you analyzed the situation when you made the plan, if it’s more than a few days old, things will already be different. After a month, they’ll be very different. After a year, virtually nothing will be the same as it was when you started. Planning is only useful as a discipline to force people to think carefully about what they know and what they don’t. Once you start, throw the plan away and keep your eyes on reality.
9.Don’t let others use you to avoid being responsible for their own decisions. To hold yourself responsible for someone else’s success and happiness demeans them and proves you’ve lost the plot. It’s their life. They have to live it. You can’t do it for them; nor can you stop them from messing it up if they’re determined to do so. The job of a supervisor is to help and supervise. Only control-freaks and some others with a less serious mental disability fail to understand this.
10.Don’t worry about about your personality. You don’t really have one. Personality, like ego, is a concept invented by your mind. It doesn’t exist in the real world. Personality is a word for the general impression that you give through your words and actions. If your personality isn’t likeable today, don’t worry. You can always change it, so long as you allow yourself to do so. What fixes someone’s personality in one place is a determined effort on their part-usually through continually telling themselves they’re this or that kind of person and acting on what they say. If you don’t like the way you are, make yourself different. You’re the only person who’s standing in your way.
Tuesday, June 05, 2007
Miss Bella Mia
The renovations are coming along well I must say. We just had a brand new furnace and hot water tank installed yesterday. I can actually have a 45 minute shower now without running out of hot water within the first 5 minutes. I can actually shave and get the shampoo out of my hair before the water goes cold. What a blessing!!! Now, I think this week we will get a new set of stairs ordered and the window well dug. We need to have the concrete cutter come in and cut a
The girls are doing awesome. They are excited
Well off to do my hair for the afternoon.
Cause you know I do have some problems like Miss Sassy with the hair issues... Not necessarily the toilet thing!
Hopefully I can get on here a bit more
**S.H.I.T. Day is "So happy it's Tuesday!"**
Friday, February 16, 2007
More Reno done.
We have the basement 85% gutted... We only left one bedroom downstairs cause my sil needs somewhere to sleep. Here are some photos of the progress thus far. I will post some more pictures later. This weekend will be full of work again, getting rid of the rest of the debris and cleaning the concrete. What a mess this was. The plumbing was the shits. The electrical is a mess. There was 4 foot by 6 inch strips of glass hidden up in the ceiling. Nice.
This was the family room... The kitchen was to the right of this photo...
The demo has been started here....
This was the kitchen.... We found alot of abandoned mouse nests in here... that window needs to be replaced... We do have to have the concrete cored... More money... But well worth it...
This was where the shower was... They put the shower right over top of the hole they dug for the plumbing... Not even filling it in... So needless to say there was alot of mold on the drywall here... The hole is about 6 inches deep... We will be digging up the plumbing in the concrete and replacing all of it... Then putting back everything the right way...
Thursday, February 08, 2007
Well Hello There
Sunday, October 08, 2006
Happy Birthday Hanna
Happy Birthday Hanna
I know mama is a bit late posting this...
But still had to get it up for you
Love ya Baby
Cancelled Dodge Commercial
Wednesday, September 06, 2006
Happy Birthday Baby!
Mama loves you!
I am a crazy mother of 3 girls all under the age of 6. I drive a school bus, I aslo love photography, I am married now for almost 2 years to a wonderful man named Monte.